What is this?

Communion: Queer & Trans Memorial & Mourning (aka QT Communion) is a free virtual gathering about trans/queer grief practice. It convenes four times per year during the last week of each season. Four storytellers are invited to tell one 5-10min story each. The rest of us listen.

Like life, it is temporary so there is no recording. No Q&A. Deliberately unsponsored. A project from my whole heart.

How did QTC come to be?

For most of my life, OCD made me too scared to whisper death—but fear did not protect me. Now, there is only attention & shh & listen listen listen. Now: communion. These last years I’ve learned so much from—& together with—my daring & tender friends about grief & witness & celebration.

An expression of gratitude to the dear ones who agree to tell stories; to my favorite cartoonist, J. Marshall Smith, for creating QTC’s art; to Max Bearinger for collaborating with me on dragging this dream to earth; to everyone who has held me—held us—in grief, especially every storyteller passing through here & Adam F. Israel, Moya Bailey, Joseph Hirsh, AnMarie Rodgers, Cynthia Taylor, Jeremiah Lockwood, Matthew Ando, Sourik Beltran, The Deathwives, & Justin Baker; to Jewlia Eisenberg herself & Auntie R herself; finally, to Megan R. Elias for convincing me that planning for my own death was worth facing & is worth doing.

When’s the next one?

The easiest way to hear about the next QTC gathering is to subscribe for free (only ~8 messages per year; usually 1 before and 1 after each event). Please ignore any prompts about “paid subscriptions”… this is a free site, so it suffers from the occasional pop-up.